I Quit Facebook and My Worst Fears Came True

 
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This shortie is Part II to my Why I Quit Facebook Even Though I Have a Personal Brand


Right. So about…10 months ago, I quit facebook.

 

At the time, it felt like a moderately big decision. An important one. And one that had the potential to truly shift how I was spending my time online.

 

Spoiler alert: it did.

 

And some of my worst fears about quitting did come true. Here’s what happened.

1. People who I thought cared about me (and who I cared about) disappeared into oblivion.

Yes. This might happen to you too: you quit facebook, and you realize that some of your connections were based on the platform’s convenience. Eek.

I won’t lie. It sucks. I’m a Millenial that grew up on facebook. And it kind of felt like I got punked.

 

But, once I got over it, I realized that if a friendship can’t exist in other forms (and there are many other forms), than it likely was a.) going to end anyway or b.) was weak to begin with. And energy + time spent on weak connections — especially when you’re psychologically geared to have meaningful, deep friendships—well, that’s a waste.

 

2. I was forced to deal with the uncomfortable feelings I was avoiding by going on facebook in the first place.

Straight up, Story of Most Human Beings’ Lives…learning how to be present, even in the face of discomfort. Welcome to Planet Earth, woohoo! I’m not enlightened yet, so I still try to avoid discomfort, but not having facebook at the ready makes being present that much easier.

 

And here’s some amazingly unexpected stuff that happened.

 

1. Business got better.

 

Yeah. Business got better. First, canceling my facebook profile + page actually forced prospects to connect with me through email instead of facebook messenger—which cut the fat and sped up the process of doing business. More efficiency + a better overall experience for clients=win. Also: any energy I was spending on facebook went back into my business. And I started writing a lot more. And maybe because I was sending out more zen-vibes, or being more present with people in person, or any number of things…I got contacted twice as much by people who wanted to work with me.

Funny how life works sometimes.

2.People who used to connect with me online have become IRL friends.

And, some people who were accustomed to connecting with me on facebook just emailed me instead. Simple.

Also, a few people who I didn’t actually talk to on facebook, ever, contacted me just to tell me that something I had said to them had made them feel encouraged and hopeful at a turning point in their life. That was really cool, because they could have easily not bothered making that extra step. Finding out that you’ve helped spread some encouragement and hope is awesome, and if people really want to, they can find you and let you know—especially when you have a website and a personal brand.

And, some people who I regularly connected with on facebook became closer friends through old fashioned phone conversions, or frequent text message exchanges, or WhatsApp voice messages.

 

So essentially, I traded a few thousand “friends” for actual people in my life with whom I have a deeper, more meaningful, more trusting, more reliable friendship.

 

In short: if you’re thinking about quitting facebook and you’re afraid you’ll miss out: you will. You’ll miss out on curated highlight reels of other people’s lives. You’ll miss out on feeling like you’re conveniently connected. You’ll miss out (maybe?) on party invites. 

 

But most importantly, you’ll miss out on wasting your time, your energy, and really—your life. The things you’ll discover about people might be scary and difficult, but they will be true. At least for me, living in truth is so much better than delusion any day of the week.

My advice is this: if quitting facebook is calling your name, you should probably go with your gut and just do it. Your life + connections will likely be deeper and more focused as a result.

In pursuit of freedom + sanity,
Laura V.